Society is guided by certain norms that seek to promote decency and a high sense of responsibility amongst its habitats. Among these are doctrines that appeal to the logical senses of man and some that needs a second thought regarding what reality is, as against how such principles are interpreted by society. 

It is refreshing when every individual in society embraces unity to foster stronger bond for security, good health and economic growth that falls in tune with the famous quote “Be your neighbors’ keeper”. But a deep reflection on reality has revealed the free fall of present-day societal standards and the lack of logical reasoning in societal practices.

Before I go straight to the point, I would suggest that we adapt to change as the clock tick’s day by day causing visible changes in the atmosphere from sunrise to sunset. 

Amazingly, issues of who takes welfare responsibility have widely been debated among men and women with an obvious biased judgement after every argument.  But a pause to ask the “What if…?” question when your welfare becomes someone’s responsibility could probably compel one to take precautions and prepare for any eventuality. 

Society has created a widely accepted notion that it is a man’s responsibility to provide for his wife, children, and possibly other relations depending on family ties. And a woman is to see to the safekeep of the home and children as a way to support the man. But are these norms feasible in the context of reality? 

Now the reality is that, this particular doctrine has caused most women to depend solely on their men for survival and as a result has made some men very powerful and abusive because they are the sole bankrollers of the family. 

Some responsible men will abide by social doctrines by taking full responsibility of the family and have their women limit themselves to the running of the home. But could this have a negative future implication? 

Some women also prefer to defy societal norms and have chosen to be financially independent despite all odds.

But I ask my colleague women, where l do you belong? 

Thus situation of “ He is responsible to take care of me”  has affected us as people so much that, some men give their all, all in the name of being responsible whilst some women women (in most cases) seat helplessly and enjoy proceeds of the man’s labor  without considering any untimely misfortune. 

Regardless of the responsibility bestowed on men by society, some men have also chosen to be irresponsible whilst their woman take up the mantle of responsibility and execute it perfectly. At this point, some women who fall victim of emotional and phycological torture in the hands of irresponsible men are compelled to resort to legal means by fighting their case at every available law enforcement agency of concern, family, and traditional councils. Life could have been much easier and better if the victim had not made their welfare the sole responsibility of a man. 

I grew up telling myself that I am my own responsibility and the only responsibility my parent owes me is birth. Once I begin to reason and think critically as a woman, then I’m on my own and I can reason with a man to make life meaningful or have it done all by myself.  Yet society is telling me it’s a man’s responsibility to take care of me as a woman and our children. 

Don’t men also need care? Must they always be the ones providing for us? Must they always be the ones giving us gifts and pampering us. I know woman can supper responsible than men if I am allowed to say that. If you look at the single parents in the world 90% of them are woman, not just any women, bitter women who feel their men should have been there to give them all the love and support they need as a family. And as a result, most women end up bring up bitter kids because they are bitter and toxic. 

The partner who left the kids and the toxic one who stays produces the same result, its take special kids to breakthrough and become direct opposite of what their toxic parent plant in them. 

I believe it is high time society start teaching reality and stop presenting us with hypothesis, because the vulnerable ones are left to suffer from so many things because society has refused to tell us the realities of life.

It’s high time we take up the mantle and blame no one for our misfortunes if a man refuses a responsibility bestowed on him by society it doesn’t justify their actions or make them right, but you shouldn’t end up in mediocrity, live a good example by becoming better.

I don’t think responsibility should be gender centered, be responsible because you are human and if for nothing at all, you should be responsible for your own life. We all need someone to lean on, no one is an island.

There is always someone looking at you from afar taking notes, being inspired or learning from you. Make your responsibility your own.

Be responsible because you are a human